Enriching Activities

In searching for the right after-school activities for your kids, here are five questions to ask.

After-school activities offer great opportunities for children to explore new interests, develop social and emotional skills, navigate conflict, make new friends, learn to manage time effectively and so much more. The first decision seems easy: “Of course, I want my child to participate in after-school activities!” The second, though, could pose a bit more difficulty: “But which one?” At the YMCA, we are thrilled to offer many different after-school enrichment options for your child, and we recognize that making the choice can feel daunting. From our experience with parents and families, we’ve developed five top questions to consider as you narrow down the selection process. 

1. What do we really have time for? While extracurricular activities are beneficial and enjoyable, it is important to keep an intentional balance between activity and rest. When children participate in activities without ample time to do so, they end up feeling overextended, exhausted and unable to thrive. The activity becomes a source of dread instead of enrichment. The Child Mind Institute notes that children in too many activities may also experience heightened anxiety and stress. It’s important to ensure that the basics are manageable before adding on any further activity. Does my child have enough time for sleep? For homework? For play and family time? 
2. What is my child’s personality type? Is your child outgoing by nature, or more on the quiet side? Extroverted children tend to prefer activities that can be done in community, require team participation or allow them to shine. Consider team sports like soccer, baseball or hockey, artistic pursuits such as theater, choir and dance, or collaborative activities such as board games. Introverted children might prefer activities that can be done alone, such as fine art, video games, photography, gardening, cooking, horseback riding or biking. Classes and clubs (art class, running club, writers’ groups) allow a quieter child to come out of their shell and seek friends once they feel comfortable. Lastly, if your child is willing, consider challenging them beyond their personality type in safe, low-commitment ways such as with one-day workshops.
3. What is my child interested in? If your child expresses interest in an activity, allow them to explore this passion in a safe, supportive environment. Will their choice ultimately become their career or life’s passion? Maybe not, but each experience gives your child the chance to learn new skills and affords a greater sense of who they are as they narrow down what they like and what they don’t. A child will always remember that you listened responsively to their needs. 
4. In what areas could my child potentially use additional support? 

Extracurriculars can also help children develop and enhance skills in which you or they may feel that they need greater support to catch up to their peers. Consider low-stakes sports clubs to encourage physical activity, a social or emotionally reflective course to foster thoughtfulness and EQ, or after-school tutoring groups for subjects that pose most difficult in school.

5. Where is it located? Your child may express interest in an activity that requires a long drive. It is important to also note your own capacity when selecting an after-school activity. Is the drive realistically sustainable? Will it be possible to arrive on time without undue stress? While it is important to encourage your child’s interests, rushing to an activity can cause unpleasant tension and create a negative association. If your child is passionate about an activity that is too far for your family, offer alternatives or courses that may feel like “building blocks” to the activity that they are ultimately interested in. For example, if your child is interested in a specific theater program, offer them acting, singing or dance lessons instead. 

Deciding between extracurricular activities can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Try going through this list alongside your child and make a game out of the choice as you narrow down what activity might be best to start with. Remind your child (and yourself) that they are never permanently bound to a specific activity, and that there is always room to switch and try something new. Happy choosing!

Kaycee Martin is director of operations for Child & Youth Development at YMCA of Orange County. The YMCA of Orange County offers extracurricular programs for every age and ability, from swim lessons to dance classes, art and science clubs, Youth & Government, sports leagues, social camps and more.

By Kaycee Martin