Taking time out for a mommy-daughter date.
I recently hooked up with my buddy, Special K. No I’m not referring to that nasty drug misguided teens abuse in after school specials. Special K is my term of endearment for my best pal and fellow POC blogger, Kathy Kuiper. I asked her to meet me for lunch at the mall because I wanted to hitch a ride home from her after my hair appointment, since my car was out of commission. Kathy told me she’d love to meet me for lunch, but would probably have her daughter Sienna with her, since it was her turn to have a “Mommy Day.”
When I read that text my heart sank. Special… K… has… one… on… one… time… with… her… triplets? Who does that? I risked life, limbs and vital organs bringing mine into the world. I give my trying, challenging, gray matter killing…I mean ADORABLE triplets three hots and a cot. I thought they had it pretty good? What is Kathy trying to do, be some sort of Super Mom? Blonde and beautiful isn’t enough? Sheesh! My inferiority complex-o-meter just shot through the roof. I figured it was time to get busy at being a better mom.
I put some thought into what activity my daughter Hannah would enjoy as a mother-daughter outing. I remembered what fun we had last year attending a kid’s birthday party at a Fountain Valley skate center. I decided that this would be fun way for us to stay cool on a hot summer day.
When I told my kids that I planned a girl’s day out, Hannah was thrilled and my boys immediately questioned me about when they would have a “boys’ day.” I promised them that they would have their turn in the near future and whisked Hannah off to the skate center. As we entered the rink, we spied a throng of day-campers in blue T-shirts, none too gracefully circling the rink to the latest top 40 pop songs.
After renting skates and a locker to store our shoes and purses in, we spent two of the three-hour skate session working on our roller skating skills. Hannah was shaky in the beginning since it’s something she’s only tried a few times. She hugged the wall for dear life as we slowly rolled along to the beat of Katy Perry and Taylor Swift. Within the first hour, Hannah ran into a friend from school that was attending the day camp. I suddenly witnessed my tentative daughter push away from the wall and skate with her friend, only grabbing the wall occasionally for balance. Eureka! A light bulb went off in my head. Sooo, when I want my daughter to challenge herself, step back and bring a friend forward.
Two hours into our groovy day, the power goes out at the rink. Some guy decided to drive into a utility pole and the whole block lost power.
The rink’s backup generator kicked into shed light above the entrance and concession stand, but the rink and video games remained dark and silent. For the last hour of our session we had no light, music or air conditioning. The staff opened the three doors for light and airflow, but we sweltered in the heat as we tried our best to enjoy the rest of our skating session. We left 45 minutes early to head off to lunch. I promised Hannah a Shirley Temple to wash down her favorite pasta dish at California Pizza Kitchen. As we headed home, I realized there was something to this mommy-daughter day thing. I can’t wait to have one-on-one time with my boys.
How do you moms of multiples create alone time with each of your kids?