POC’s very own provided families with the children they longed for.
By Lauren Felechner
Parenting OC: What made you want to be a surrogate?
Niccole Miller: I have been very fortunate in my life to have people do nice things for me so I wanted to do the same. I originally wanted to donate my eggs to help someone that really wanted to have children—then I found out that I was too old. The agency that I contacted told me I would be a great person for surrogacy. My second surrogacy was because I enjoyed the process and told my intended parents that I would love to do this again for them if they wanted. However, it wasn’t as easy the second time around. It took two years and three rounds of IVF for us to become pregnant.
POC: What was the process like for you to become a surrogate—both doctor-advised and personally?
NM: I filled out a questionnaire and the surrogacy company matched me with a couple from Los Angeles. They viewed my questionnaire and I viewed theirs. After we both decided that we thought we could work together, I was scheduled to meet them and the fertility doctor in Beverly Hills where I underwent multiple medical procedures to verify that I was able to still have children. After being cleared, I was onto my next appointment with a psychologist. They need to make sure that you are capable to handle the process. I was cleared and then was onto syncing our cycles. During this time, I started taking different prescriptions to suppress my body from producing eggs, which tricked my body into thinking that I was pregnant so they could implant her eggs into me. Two weeks later I found out that I was pregnant.
POC: Was there any difference for you mentally or physically being pregnant as a surrogate versus being pregnant with your own child?
NM: Of course there is a difference both mentally and physically, but the end result was the same: I wanted to deliver healthy children! There wasn’t any connection with the children because I started this process knowing that I already have four healthy children and I didn’t want any more. My last pregnancy/surrogacy was by far the hardest and I think it is because of my age.
POC: How supportive was your family when you approached them with the idea of being a surrogate?
NM: My family was very supportive. My husband understood it was something that I really wanted to do. He supported me through the entire process—both times—and was by my side in the delivery room. My kids thought it was weird at first, but in the end they were all extremely proud of their mom for being so selfless.
POC: Although you were doing it with the best intentions, was it at all difficult to give away a child that you have been carrying and gave birth to?
NM: No it wasn’t hard because I knew what I was getting myself into. I had given birth four times previously; the birth process was easy. I was excited and ready to give them the child that they had been wanting for so many years, and ready to have my body back. I felt like I took a year off and I was so excited to leave the hospital and return to my family.